I vs. You
We as people are many things to many people. We are mothers or fathers, aunts or uncles, sisters or brothers, employers or employees, friends and loved ones.
We speak in a way that is easy and roles off our tongue like butter melting. And that's "I'm proud of you, you are awesome." It's great. It makes little impact on those that have told themselves over and over again how worthless they are. However we can speak in a way that actually has them listen. And that is through acknowledgment.
When we say their name and we use the word "you." You see we as human beings, when we hear our name we naturally want to know what someone is saying about us. It opens their ears and they actually hear what is being said, they have the opportunity to consider and they have a choice whether to believe it or not.
Example:
Alexis calms down her brother Brady who is unhappy. The person says:
"I'm so proud of you that was awesome."
Or
"Alexis, thank you for calming Brady. Who you are for our family is calmness and peace and I thank you."
Acknowledgment takes effort, it is a gift, and it is a muscle and is not easy. It takes effort on our part.
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